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Being single isn’t the end of the world, in fact is is just the opposite. I’ve always been “the single one” out of my friends and family members. I frequently am asked if I have a boyfriend yet and when I answer my usual “no,” I receive a lot of mixed reactions – sad puppy dog eyes of family members that sorry for me, blank stares from those trying to figure out what is wrong with me and why I’m single, and the “you’re so lucky” statements from friends that are having their own relationship problems.
So, why am I single you ask? I’m single because I’m in my early twenties, just starting my last year of college, and the last thing I want to add to my plate is a relationship. I’m single because I wake up every day telling myself that today is the day I am going to get my sh*t together, and never actually do, but I’m okay with it because the only person I need to worry about is myself. Every time my mom tells me I need a boyfriend, I tell her I don’t need one because I’m already dating myself. But don’t get me wrong, I do have those days that I wish I had a significant other to spend time with, share memories with, and to cook for me when I’m too lazy to get out of bed – but those days are few and far between.
I’ve recently become more aware of the negative stigmas that follow women into the dating world, and frankly, it pisses me off. Even though I’m all for girl power, I would never consider myself a feminist, but this is one topic that really pushes my buttons and I don’t think it’s talked about enough. I think it’s ridiculous that girls are expected to date through high school and college. Hello, have you seen how immature teenagers are? Who wants to deal with it? Not me. And why is there such a pressure for high school students to go to prom with a date that is the opposite sex? I can tell you right now that I never had a male date for prom and I had the best time of my life and I don’t regret it for a minute.
Here are eight why it’s OK to be the single one:
REASON NUMBER ONE: You learn to be independent, which is a great quality to have
REASON NUMBER TWO: You never have to justify or explain your actions
REASON NUMBER THREE: You have unlimited “me time”
REASON NUMBER FOUR: You’re not tied down so you can take risks and leaps of faith
REASON NUMBER FIVE: You can discover your passions
REASON NUMBER SIX: Binge watching Netflix is 10x more acceptable because there’s no one judging you
REASON NUMBER SEVEN: As a young adult, it’s important to take time to discover who you are
REASON NUMBER EIGHT: It gives you time to learn about other people in your life
If you take anything away from this post, I hope you realize it’s OK to be the single one. Embrace it! If your friends and family members ask you why you don’t have the significant other, stand up for yourself, share with them how you’re embracing the single life, and most importantly – make them wish they were as independent as you!
How do you embrace the single life?