Every Blogger Needs a Tribe

Cristina + I Boston 2015

This might be a shock to some of you, but guys, blogging is a lot of work. From taking pictures, to brainstorming post ideas, to being present on social media, to all the extra learning, late nights, and content pitches – it’s a lot to handle whether it’s your full-time job, whether you’re in school, whether you’re a mom. But luckily for us, with blogging comes a great community. I have no idea how I even functioned and kept up with blogging before I met all the fabulous ladies that I have met. No idea, what. so. ever.

I could go on and on for days about the blogging community and how I personally thing it’s the best type of community out there, but I’ll save you from my boring thoughts. Instead, let’s talk about your blogging tribe – how you can benefit from one, how to find your tribe, and what I’ve learned from my tribe. Exciting stuff, amiright?

How you can benefit from having a tribe

The thing with blogging is that it is really hard to understand it all if you’re not a blogger. None of my “real life friends” fully understand the work I put into my blog, but my blogging gals do. Your tribe is there for you – to celebrate your accomplishments, to pick you up when you are down, you’ll always have someone to e-mail an ungodly amount of times throughout the day (*ahem*, Cristina), they teach you new things, help you brainstorm blog post ideas when your brain is absolutely fried, tell you what photos to Instagram and what to caption them.

Basically, you can benefit from having a tribe all aspects of your blogging and “real” lives. The best thing is knowing you have a group of girls (and maybe some guys) that understand the whole blogging thing and can help you through it when times get tough, and it’s an added bonus when they understand and can support you in your “real” life.

How to find your tribe

Dare I say, “your vibe attracts your tribe.” But it’s true, don’t let anyone tell you differently. It’s like in “real life” when you’re trying to make new friends – no one wants to talk to someone that is constantly negative, putting others down, or doing things that don’t reflect who they truly are. Be yourself, your tribe will come.

Until then, connect with other bloggers. Comment on their blog posts (they worked really hard on them, you know), engage with them on Instagram and Twitter, and just be friendly! This is how I met my gal pals *cough* tribe, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Word to the wise: don’t rush it and don’t force it, it’ll all happen naturally!

Related post: How to Make the Most of Facebook Groups as a Blogger (& My Favorite Groups to Join)

What I’ve learned from my tribe

I’ve learned that I’m not the only one that has random rooms in their house that smell like farts, I’ve learned that quadruple texting is a thing (because if someone doesn’t answer, they will if you just keep texting them), and I’ve earned that voice-to-text is a great tool when you’re lazy AF and don’t feel like using your fingers to text.

Oh, you meant, you wanted me to be serious and tell you what I’ve actually learned from my gals? I’ve learned that even though consistency is key when it comes to managing your blog, it’s OK to take a few breaks throughout the week. Stressing over your blog won’t do it any good, your blog needs you rested and ready to go (& academics always come first!!!!!!!!!!). Although I’ve learned a lot from these lovely ladies, the most important thing I’ve learned is how to be happy for other women and not to look at them as competition – we should be empowering each other and supporting one another. That’s how we become successful.


Now, the most exciting part of this post. I’m sure most of you know here (we only tweet and snapchat about each other, like all day long) but if you don’t, meet my blogging wife, Cristina.

Cristina Was Here

Cristina and I met via the blogging world last year and finally, this past summer when she was in Boston, I got to meet her in REAL life. And let me tell you, she is as wonderful as she seems on her blog, in her snapchats, and on social media. I can’t even begin to image what my blogging experience would be like without her (and without her e-mailing me all the time #iloveit) and today is a very special day. Cristina is launching her new blog, Cristina Was Here. I got a little sneak preview of it previous to todays launch and I’ve never been so excited and proud of her in the whole year that I’ve known her. The best part is, I forced her into a little mini-interview so that I could introduce you to her, and her new blog!

Seashells + Sparkles: What are your blogging goals?

Cristina Was Here: As of now, I feel like I want to blog forever. I’ll be 85 and updating you about the latest knitting patterns and how to make the best chicken soup. But really, I want to grow this blog as I grow. I hope to start more weekly features on CWH and maybe even do a newsletter some day. In the long run, writing a book would be super cool or maybe even launching my own product. Personalized to-do lists? Pens that sing Beyoncé songs? Who knows.

SS: What is the best way to get people to keep reading and coming back to your blog?

CWH: Believe that your readers are your friends and they will be. After all, they are the main support system for your blog! So ask a lot of questions, get their opinions and thoughts, write posts that are curated to their questions and needs. The next step is just to create a well designed corner of the Internet for them to come to. I’ve really made sure that my blog is easy to navigate, so that people have a good experience while reading and searching it, and they’ll want to come back!

SS: What are your favorite plugins and which do you think are the most important for bloggers to have on their blog?

CWH: I love WordPress Popular Posts! It’s a great way to showcase your best work and to keep drawing traffic to older posts. I’m learning more and more about plugins and which ones are “must haves” for the blog (Pinterest is a great resource!). I just want people to feel like they stepped into a chic, fun, and lively corner of the Internet when they visit Cristina Was Here!

SS: Tell us about your blog launch.

CWH: I knew that Cristina on Campus was a temporary home from the moment I made it. I just needed a place to get started and a place to get my footing. I wanted to switch to being self-hosted on WordPress after a year of blogging, so I got my domain. It took a while (*cough* erm….. 6 months) to get it up and running, and ready for viewing, but I think it was totally worth it! I think it’s very “me.” It’s got my favorite colors for branding and a lot of references to my quirky-ness. I love it and I hope my readers will, too!

How do you benefit from your tribe? Have you ever found it difficult to bond with other bloggers? Tell me about your experiences in the comments below!


  1. February 24, 2016 / 10:49 AM

    Love this Rach! You are so savvy with all things blogging – even when it comes to finding your tribe! Couldn’t ask for a better #blogwife. Brb, sharing the shit outta this!


    • February 24, 2016 / 10:58 AM

      Oh, you are so cute Cristina! Congrats on the blog launch!!!

  2. February 24, 2016 / 4:01 PM

    This is gold!l loved it. Looking for my own tribe and motivated to keep posting regularly ❤️

    • February 24, 2016 / 4:18 PM

      yay!!!! it’ll come, and you’ll love them!

  3. February 24, 2016 / 6:12 PM

    I totally agree with you!! I have made so many amazing friends through blogging and I don’t know what I would do without their constant support! We all need people who get us and get what we do.

    • February 24, 2016 / 7:30 PM

      YES! Bloggers are seriously the best supportive system!

  4. February 24, 2016 / 7:11 PM

    One of my favorite things about blogging is the community you get to be part of. It feels great to have someone who understands the struggle and is there to help you and support you! I’m definitely checking out that post about facebook groups by the way!

    Be | lovefrombe

    • February 24, 2016 / 7:31 PM

      Blogging tribes are the bomb.com, and definitely check it out! There are so many great groups out there!

  5. February 24, 2016 / 10:27 PM

    Thanks for this post, I especially loved what you said at the beginning. I was just telling my dad about my latest sponsored post last night and he was shocked about the money that I made (it wasn’t even that much for a sponsored post, lol); but then I started going into everything that goes into a blog post and I think after all these years it finally clicked for him. 🙂
    I love the friends I’ve met through blogging and I would love to meet some in real life!

    • February 25, 2016 / 8:23 AM

      It’s insane how separate the blogging world is and how much other people don’t understand it. Like, hi, do you act this way about people who are accountants? It always blows my mind. It’s nice to have them around to share your wins and your losses with!

      Hopefully you get to meet some of them! Cristin and I’s relationship has definitely become stronger since we met in person!

  6. February 25, 2016 / 5:20 AM

    How awesome that you have a blogging tribe & that you were able to meet in person! So exciting. It is so nice to be able to talk to someone and ask them a bunch of blogging questions! I don’t know where I would be without my blogging friends either!!

    • February 25, 2016 / 8:24 AM

      It’s awesome – I ask my blogging wife (Cristina) for post ideas, etc. and she comes to me for everything related to the back end (coding, widgets, how to do something). It’s a nice balance!!

  7. Taylor
    February 25, 2016 / 9:49 AM

    I love this post Rachel!! A blogging tribe is totally necessary! It’s like celebs having a glam squad & a PR team, our tribes keep us going and the real world just doesn’t get it…it’s not just sitting and taking pictures of random stuff (as most of my friends think).

    Taylor | http://www.styleiseverythingblog.com

    • February 25, 2016 / 11:20 AM

      YES! Like hi I have lots to do people!

    • February 25, 2016 / 11:21 AM

      Aw, thanks Courtney! Blogging is hard, man.

  8. February 25, 2016 / 6:49 PM

    I’ve made some great blowing friends this past year too! It’s so great to know you have other women bloggers on your team who know exactly what I’m going through when my real life friends don’t get it. Great interview, BTW I love wordpress popular posts too!

    • February 26, 2016 / 1:37 PM

      Amen! I still need to set up WP popular posts, in time!

  9. February 26, 2016 / 4:19 AM

    Glad to visit your blog.

    • March 2, 2016 / 11:49 AM

      Thanks for coming, Gigi!

  10. February 26, 2016 / 11:00 PM

    I love following along with you twos adventures! 🙂
    Y’all seem like such sweet girls and you’re both killing the blogging game.

    xoxo, Jenny

    • February 27, 2016 / 7:53 AM

      Aw, thanks so much! Cristina is a great gal!

  11. February 27, 2016 / 11:58 PM

    I love love love this post. I am pretty new at the whole blogging world… and have been wondering lately how others are meeting each other and building a friendship “tribe” connection. I started in sept 2015 then with my pregnancy and life was not focussed as much on the blog. I am ready to dust off my keyboard and get to blogging more and vlogging. how is it that you can get help but not have people think you are copying them?

    • February 28, 2016 / 9:22 AM

      It’s great to meet gals through Twitter, Instagram, and blogging Facebook groups! There are only a few blogs that I religiously read on a day-to-day basis and they’re my friends blogs, other than that I try not to read them SUPER frequently because I feel as though it’s easier to get their thoughts stuck in your head causing you to subconsciously copy them!

  12. March 2, 2016 / 8:32 PM

    Such a beautiful post! I am always up for any cause to support my fellow bloggers. I think it is important to be each other’s cheerleaders because, as you said, none of our non-blogger friends “get it”. Some make fun of fashion blogging as something trivial and superficial without seeing the hard work we put in.

    Abby of Life in the Fash Lane

    • March 3, 2016 / 10:53 AM

      Thanks so much, Abby! It is important to have a group of girls that “get it” and what’s better then a group of girls that do what we do?

  13. March 7, 2016 / 4:52 PM

    Really enjoyed reading this post! I agree, normal people just don’t understand the blogging thing and how much effort is put into it. And it’s so sweet to see that you’ve met your blogger friend in real life! That’s always so exciting!


    • March 8, 2016 / 10:16 AM

      I’m so glad you enjoyed it, Ruya! Meeting Cristina IRL was fab!

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