I’m finally at the point in my life that I have friends that don’t live within a fifteen mile radius of me. Whether they’re away at college, moved somewhere new for a kick ass job opportunity, or they just don’t live close to me anymore, it’s quite the adjustment trying to figure out how to still nurture these relationships. In my eyes, friendships are the most precious of relationships because let’s face it – the most amazing bonds are made with friends that you will never have with your parents or your significant other – and not having those friends living within a hop, skip, or a jump away from you flat out sucks.
Whether you’re in college and home for the summer, just graduated and trying to figure out how life will go on without seeing your college friends all the time, or recently moved away from your BFF, there is an adjustment period that you go through and once you go through that, you need to figure out how your friendship is going to survive a 1,500 mile gap. The best thing about a LDF’s (long distance friendship – clever, right?) is that it’s exciting to turn your relationship into something new and below I’m dishing four ways you can maintain, survive, and learn more about your besties.
People are always complaining that technology is ruining people because they spend so much time on it, but if you embrace it and take advantage of it, it will only benefit you. Take advantage of FaceTime, Skype, and the ease of texting when it comes to your LDF. It allows you to stay connected and doesn’t make the distance seem as bad. Don’t forget, the phone works both ways.
Don’t forget about snail mail
I don’t know about you (but I’m feeling 22), but I love getting snail mail. With all of the junk mail and bills that tend to clog up everyone’s mail box, sometimes it’s nice to see a little something that you weren’t expecting. Care packages are also the bomb.com and help remind your friends remember how much you love them. Don’t forget to include their favorite snacks, candies, and maybe a cute t-shirt (or five!).
Whether they are yearly visits or a fun vacation, always make sure to dedicate some time actually seeing your friends throughout the year. The excitement of traveling to your besties new apartment or traveling to a new country together make the distance seem to fade away. Savor the time you have together, make loads of memories, and take too many pictures.
Stay up to date on the important things
Even if you’re not talking to your BFF every day, it is important to stay updated on the big things. You know, the big breakups, the new job opportunities, the new boyfriend, and even the purchase of their visit “big girl” couch. You don’t need to talk every single day in order to have a strong friendship but you do need to stay up to date on the important parts of your BFFs life.
No matter how you maintain your long distance friendships so that they thrive, the important thing to remember is to stay connected whenever possible. The phone works both ways so don’t get mad at your BFF for not calling (she probably just has a lot going on) when you haven’t made the effort to give her a ring.