How to Help Your Long Distance Friendship Thrive

I’m finally at the point in my life that I have friends that don’t live within a fifteen mile radius of me. Whether they’re away at college, moved somewhere new for a kick ass job opportunity, or they just don’t live close to me anymore, it’s quite the adjustment trying to figure out how to still nurture these relationships. In my eyes, friendships are the most precious of relationships because let’s face it – the most amazing bonds are made with friends that you will never have with your parents or your significant other – and not having those friends living within a hop, skip, or a jump away from you flat out sucks.

Whether you’re in college and home for the summer, just graduated and trying to figure out how life will go on without seeing your college friends all the time, or recently moved away from your BFF, there is an adjustment period that you go through and once you go through that, you need to figure out how your friendship is going to survive a 1,500 mile gap. The best thing about a LDF’s (long distance friendship – clever, right?) is that it’s exciting to turn your relationship into something new and below I’m dishing four ways you can maintain, survive, and learn more about your besties.

How to Help Your Long Distance Friendship Thrive

Embrace technology

People are always complaining that technology is ruining people because they spend so much time on it, but if you embrace it and take advantage of it, it will only benefit you. Take advantage of FaceTime, Skype, and the ease of texting when it comes to your LDF. It allows you to stay connected and doesn’t make the distance seem as bad. Don’t forget, the phone works both ways.

Don’t forget about snail mail

I don’t know about you (but I’m feeling 22), but I love getting snail mail. With all of the junk mail and bills that tend to clog up everyone’s mail box, sometimes it’s nice to see a little something that you weren’t expecting. Care packages are also the and help remind your friends remember how much you love them. Don’t forget to include their favorite snacks, candies, and maybe a cute t-shirt (or five!).

Plan visits

Whether they are yearly visits or a fun vacation, always make sure to dedicate some time actually seeing your friends throughout the year. The excitement of traveling to your besties new apartment or traveling to a new country together make the distance seem to fade away. Savor the time you have together, make loads of memories, and take too many pictures.

Stay up to date on the important things

Even if you’re not talking to your BFF every day, it is important to stay updated on the big things. You know, the big breakups, the new job opportunities, the new boyfriend, and even the purchase of their visit “big girl” couch. You don’t need to talk every single day in order to have a strong friendship but you do need to stay up to date on the important parts of your BFFs life.

No matter how you maintain your long distance friendships so that they thrive, the important thing to remember is to stay connected whenever possible. The phone works both ways so don’t get mad at your BFF for not calling (she probably just has a lot going on) when you haven’t made the effort to give her a ring.

How do you help your LDF thrive?


  1. May 13, 2016 / 2:49 PM

    I’ve been in a different time zone from most of my closest friends for the past 6-ish years, but thankfully, they’re the type of friends where we can just pick up where we left off. We’re all in a group chat together and send care packages to each other, and when I’m back in town, we schedule days to all catch up on life together. Technology has definitely made it easier!

    • May 16, 2016 / 12:18 PM

      Being able to pick up where you left off with friends is always the best – I have one of those and I’m so thankful for her!

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  3. May 13, 2016 / 8:35 PM

    I moved to NYC over a year ago & can totally relate. I found as well that sending cards often & even care packages helped to make up for not being there for all special occasions & life events. And now it’s kinda like having pen pals now that we all send each other stuff often. Now I’m going to go & call my best friend 🙂


    • May 16, 2016 / 12:16 PM

      It’s always nice to get a little something special in the mail, too!

  4. May 14, 2016 / 9:09 AM

    Hi Rachel! I can totally relate to this post, since my best friend has been living far away from me for a while now. It’s been hard, but texting, facetiming, and visiting every once in a while has helped 🙂
    -Aly (

    • May 16, 2016 / 12:16 PM

      Sending care packages is also a favorite of mine!

  5. LeAnn
    May 14, 2016 / 5:53 PM

    Nice post !!! Several of my best friends are long distance and I know all about the awkward period you can fall into when you are making that transition to long distance friends.

    • May 16, 2016 / 12:15 PM

      YES! It’s definitely awkward and can be tense!

  6. May 18, 2016 / 4:33 PM

    Seeing that I moved 4 hours away from most of my friends 3 years ago all of these are so important. Technology is the #1 way I communicate with my friends. I honestly want to get back into writing hand written letters. It’s been too long since I have actually written one. All great tips!

    • May 21, 2016 / 11:09 PM

      Technology is the best way to communicate but a little snail mail is always nice!

  7. May 18, 2016 / 10:04 PM

    Agree 100%! Have long distance friendships is certainly a task but well worth it! Love these tips gal!

    XO Corbin Tate

    • May 21, 2016 / 11:09 PM

      It’s so fun meeting and becoming friends with people who live in other places, too!

  8. May 22, 2016 / 2:51 PM

    After moving from SF to Boston, this is so key! Snail mail and making the effort to catch up on big things has definitely made all the difference!

    Chow Down USA

    • May 24, 2016 / 3:38 PM

      Welcome to Boston, chica!

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